Hatred and Phobia

I have a theory that all of the "straight" people against homosexuality who declare it is a choice, are secretly bisexual. To even consider that it is a choice, suggests that they could choose either one. For a man who is completely heterosexual, he knows that he cannot choose to be attracted to other men. If it were a choice, then all the lonely men who cannot convince a woman to be with them, would simply get with another man while they are searching. In reality though, those lonely, heterosexual men just remain lonely, waiting for a woman.

If a man was able to choose which gender he is attracted to, he would most commonly choose the sexuality that is accepted by society. I don't believe that is a choice we make though. I believe that is something that is naturally occurring and I find it heartless for people to discriminate others for something that was determined from birth. It is the same thing as racism, which was a socially acceptable thing 100 years ago, and took a lot of development to overcome. There are still people who hate races outside of their own, and there will continue to be people who hate sexual preferences that are different than theirs. We just have to make sure societies as a whole don't share bigoted views.

Ladies, I understand how you can see an attractive woman, and feel that although you don't wish to marry her, you would enjoy kissing her. That is not the same as being able to choose your sexual preference though. Attractive women can be provocative even to the people who do not wish to have a life with a woman. I think it is because they are just that attractive. If aliens came to planet Earth, they would probably at least have urges to be sexual with women like Eva Mendez, or Keira Knightley, even though we're a primitive species that still resorts to reproduction by fornication. The aliens that are traveling throughout galaxies probably dismissed fornication as a necessity, and after moving beyond fornication, probably achieved intergalactic travel within the year.

I don't like the term homophobia, because it dismisses a bigot's hatred as fear. If a bigot legitimately fears homosexuals, then he must secretly have at least a mild case of bisexuality. What he fears is his secret desire to act on homosexual urges that he does not approve of. It is wrong to make a person's hatred sound less villainous. If people referred to racists as ethnicphobic, then people might have sympathy for them for being scared. We can't confuse hatred with fear, because fear is forgivable and hatred is not. They are two very different things that should not be related by common word trends.

I'm not saying gay haters have to come out of the closet and embrace their bisexuality, I just wish for these haters to be kind people, and stop having hate for anyone who just has a preference that differs from what is socially common.