Hatred and Phobia

I have a theory that all of the "straight" people against homosexuality who declare it is a choice, are secretly bisexual. To even consider that it is a choice, suggests that they could choose either one. For a man who is completely heterosexual, he knows that he cannot choose to be attracted to other men. If it were a choice, then all the lonely men who cannot convince a woman to be with them, would simply get with another man while they are searching. In reality though, those lonely, heterosexual men just remain lonely, waiting for a woman.

If a man was able to choose which gender he is attracted to, he would most commonly choose the sexuality that is accepted by society. I don't believe that is a choice we make though. I believe that is something that is naturally occurring and I find it heartless for people to discriminate others for something that was determined from birth. It is the same thing as racism, which was a socially acceptable thing 100 years ago, and took a lot of development to overcome. There are still people who hate races outside of their own, and there will continue to be people who hate sexual preferences that are different than theirs. We just have to make sure societies as a whole don't share bigoted views.

Ladies, I understand how you can see an attractive woman, and feel that although you don't wish to marry her, you would enjoy kissing her. That is not the same as being able to choose your sexual preference though. Attractive women can be provocative even to the people who do not wish to have a life with a woman. I think it is because they are just that attractive. If aliens came to planet Earth, they would probably at least have urges to be sexual with women like Eva Mendez, or Keira Knightley, even though we're a primitive species that still resorts to reproduction by fornication. The aliens that are traveling throughout galaxies probably dismissed fornication as a necessity, and after moving beyond fornication, probably achieved intergalactic travel within the year.

I don't like the term homophobia, because it dismisses a bigot's hatred as fear. If a bigot legitimately fears homosexuals, then he must secretly have at least a mild case of bisexuality. What he fears is his secret desire to act on homosexual urges that he does not approve of. It is wrong to make a person's hatred sound less villainous. If people referred to racists as ethnicphobic, then people might have sympathy for them for being scared. We can't confuse hatred with fear, because fear is forgivable and hatred is not. They are two very different things that should not be related by common word trends.

I'm not saying gay haters have to come out of the closet and embrace their bisexuality, I just wish for these haters to be kind people, and stop having hate for anyone who just has a preference that differs from what is socially common.

Control

Some humans need to have control over other humans. The least powerful of these humans can only control their spouse, or their children, or the humans in their immediate surroundings. Some humans, however, make it a career of controlling as many other humans as they possibly can. These humans become police officers or politicians. Like all of the false things in life that humans think will bring them happiness, more and more is always required. As everyone in that situation finds, more money, more control, or more things, never brings them the happiness that they expect it will.

Sadly, there are more who want to be controlled. I think Annie Lennox said it best with that Eurythmics song, Sweet Dreams. It sounds like it really refers to the Sado Masochism mentality. Beyond the realm of sexual fetishes though, comes the people who need a more structured control over masses, not just one human. These humans have a disorder, but seeing how society views personalities now, I imagine we can't refer to that as a disorder. They are just..."different". If they crave the domination of humans, then we just have to accept that.

For politicians who want to control society simply for their own wealth, we can class that as a mental illness. We can group it with the addictions that are commonly treated. They only order people to be harmed and imprisoned to advance their careers and earn them money. For the police who are there to "serve and protect", it is a sign of very poor character to be harming the non-violent individuals just because they choose to.

Don't ever...call me...crazy

I once had a girlfriend who I was having a discussion with, and she said something pretty zany. I don't remember what she said, but my response was playful in saying, "ha ha, you're crazy", as I would have said to any of my other friends or family if they uttered the same words. It was something as simple as, I don't like peanut butter, and because I love peanut butter so much, I would say, "you're crazy". Her follow up to that though, was a dead serious statement of, "Don't ever...call me...crazy". My instinctive, immediate response to that was "Only crazy people say that". After that was ten minutes of dead silence where neither of us could socially lubricate the situation.

For whatever reason I said "you're crazy", I did not mean it like, "you belong in an insane asylum", or even, "you're mentally ill". No, I meant it as every person says it to other people that they are comfortable with. After saying it though, neither of us felt anything close to comfort. If you have never thought of yourself as "crazy", whatever that means, then you would not mind at all if someone called you crazy. The same would go if you are a heterosexual, and someone calls you gay, it probably wouldn't bother you at all. The only people who would be seriously bothered by being called anything, are people who have personally questioned that previously.

I think the social label that has been created for "crazy" is just misunderstood. Someone who stands on the street corner and yells to strangers how the world is going to end soon, would be a very legitimate case of crazy. Sure, the world is going to end relatively soon, and everyone knows that deep down, but yelling it to strangers on the street is what classifies that person as crazy. If you have troubles with a legitimate mental illness, you might see the word "crazy" as an attack on you. Nine times out of ten though, it is a playful comment.

I would never call someone crazy if they had been admitted to a mental hospital. I wouldn't even use the term with someone who is having mild emotional issues. I don't use the word crazy to refer to any form of mental illness. I would only use the term when speaking with someone who I am close to, who I would assume is completely aware of the context. Somehow I didn't know the girl I was dating well enough to predict her reaction to a friendly comment. We rarely know people as well as we think we know them, and that is confirmed quite frequently for many people.